Comments for Minds Matter

Comment on Do I tell my husband….? by Wendy Kuyk

Wendy Kuyk — Wed, 02 Jul 2025 18:51:27 +0000

Thank you for this Rayne, I was always under the belief that as the care giver I would shield the person with dementia from the emotions I also feel so as not to distress them. I sense that the relationship would guide the process?

Comment on Liana by Dr Rayne Stroebel

Dr Rayne Stroebel — Mon, 23 Jun 2025 08:17:02 +0000

In reply to Rob Jones. Thank you Rob, and thank you for reflecting with me on the things that really matter. Like Ageing...

Comment on The right to a dignified death. by Rob Jones

Rob Jones — Fri, 13 Jun 2025 08:29:40 +0000

Wow. If nothing else prompts us to speak more openly about this topic, regardless of where you stand on the issue, then nothing will.
Well done for creating the safe space and dealing wisely with the situation.

Comment on Liana by Rob Jones

Rob Jones — Fri, 13 Jun 2025 08:25:03 +0000

Hey Rayne.
I know that feeling – you want to hand out a klap to raucous teens at the petrol station and shout unreasonably at laughing people to pay attention to the seriousness of life. I see this incredulity in the eyes of mothers in war zones on CNN and it breaks my heart.

At certain moments we learn the hard fact that even with great friends and family and therapists, in the final analysis we make the toughest calls largely in our own lonely brains. For that reason, we need to be kind to ourselves, cut ourselves some slack and take the time (as I know you do) to reflect and relocate our gratitude before reconnecting and emptying ourselves into the world again.

Go well.

Comment on A Moving Move by Rosemary Gluckman

Rosemary Gluckman — Tue, 06 Aug 2024 19:31:29 +0000

Rayne thank you for sharing this beautiful story. I can remember, years ago, you telling me how good it was that your folks were still in their home at Witsands. You’ve had a tough journey now. Mine was so long ago, before I even understood these things.
Hope to see you tomorrow 💖

Comment on Towards the end of 2023 by Roulleen van Zyl

Roulleen van Zyl — Thu, 11 Jul 2024 18:11:30 +0000

I have early onset dementia. i would life to learn more about healthy foods for me.

Comment on Preserving a sense of Self by Rachelle Appelo

Rachelle Appelo — Sun, 19 May 2024 18:08:07 +0000

Very true. I have a cousin with dementia, 66yrs old, diagnosed 4 years ago. Those closest to her are all employed in the conventional medical field. To me it feels as if her diagnosis has come to define the person.

Comment on My Ma is dood. by Muriel van der van der Mescht

Muriel van der van der Mescht — Fri, 09 Jun 2023 16:08:38 +0000

Ai Rayne … die hartseerste hartseer! Sterkte!

Comment on My Ma is dood. by Mari Swart

Mari Swart — Wed, 07 Jun 2023 07:19:06 +0000

Ai, Rayne, soos jy sê – dit was te vinnig! Hoekom het hulle jou nie Sondagaand al gebel nie! Al die vrae wat mens teister ,…
Groot drukke my mater!

Comment on My Ma is dood. by Karen Jooste

Karen Jooste — Wed, 07 Jun 2023 06:10:15 +0000

All I ever witness through your writing is the deep love and respect you had for each other as a family. May you and Antionette get to the place where you can once again celebrate her without the tears. My sincere condolences to you both.